So, it’s all a little abstract, other than the nausea, and maybe some sore breasts, you are still basically feeling like yourself. You can’t imagine that in a mere 9 months you will balloon out and eventually birth a baby, one with a personality and a destiny all its own. This is when the siren song of the ultrasounds startsRead more
Have you ever looked at the baby section in toy stores? Flashing lights, tinny songs, hard plastic, jarring colors, whew, it leaves me overstimulated and cranky, so imagine the effects on baby! When babies are born, anyone with a beating heart will attest to their spiritual nature, the openness of their being. They absorb our moods, scents, voices and colors.Read more
The other day I realized that I now mark time in terms of babies born. July 2008 brought Maryam, Omar, Julian, and Sofia. If I want to think back to say November 2009, I think of Asiya, Malachi, and Caroline. Living in a season-less California, births mark times and seasons more concretely than weather can. It would be a lieRead more
No matter what type of birth you have, the first hour after birth is meant to be savored. Both mother and baby have made it. The hard work is over and the instinctual acts of attachment and bonding are about to begin. Baby has so much work to do, learn to breathe, digest, find the food, etc..but these lessons haveRead more
I have three kids, but I have spent a total of 21 months attempting to get pregnant. Instead of relinquishing more control with each passing month, I often became more panicked, desperate to find whatever new fertility trick was on the horizon. Acupuncture, hips piled on top of pillows after each attempt, I’ve even forced my husband to cutRead more
So you want a home birth, but you want to know how they’re going to clean up all of that blood and uh, stuff? In the hospital it just fell into a neat little plastic bag at the end of the bed, and was promptly whisked away after delivery right? How will they do that at home? Does my husband haveRead more
At four weeks postpartum, I was bending over cardboard boxes, deciding which books I would need for the next year, and which I could part with. As I straightened up, I tightened the knot on the belly wrap designed to put my fragile insides back together. To help me pare down my closet, I needed a dear friend, and the unwavering opinion of my fashion sensible midwife. I guess plaid is out, who knew?
Ramadan’s many lights and gifts will be here in a matter of weeks. One of the questions I am often asked by pregnant and nursing women is whether or not they should fast in Ramadan. This post is not meant to encourage or discourage women from fasting, rather it is to provide information that can help mothers stay healthy if they decide to undertake even a few days of fasting.Many women say that they would rather fast when everyone else is fasting instead of making their fasts up later. If you are one of those women, I hope this can help prepare you physically for the fast of Ramadan.
The gray area of when labor starts is rarely heralded by a neat “5 min apart, lasting 1 minute, for at least 1 hour”, otherwise known as 511, but, shhh, don’t tell my midwifery clients. As a midwife, I can tell it in the puffed faces of my beautiful mothers, their mental desperation and physical distress at a state thatRead more
“What gets the baby in, gets the baby out” -Ina May Gaskin – founder of modern American midwifery “…sexuality is a whole. The same hormones are involved in the different episodes of sexual life such as intercourse, childbirth, and lactation….The final phase of each sexual event is always an ‘ejection reflex': sperm ejection reflex, foetus ejection reflex, milk ejection reflex.Read more